The Inner Critic   – (The King and the Evil Minister)

The Inner Critic – (The King and the Evil Minister)

So, who here has watched “Lord of the Rings”?

Who remembers King Theodon and his evil side kick minister “Wormtongue?  King Theodon lost the ability to think clearly, to be truly himself due to the toxic whisperings from his Minister Wormtongue.  No matter what experiences the King had, they were constantly overshadowed by the evil enchantment of Wormtongue.

King Theodon second guessed everything about himself and others, to the point that he became a shell of his former self, drowned by the poison of the critical Minister.

It’s a bit like the way our inner critic arrives, and gradually takes up in residence within us.  It grooms its way into our mind and body, starting off as a trusted advisor, and gradually

gaslighting us into believing, that who we are is all wrong.

I was talking about this very thing today in a meeting with an incredibly astute and accomplished businessperson.

We both appeared for a meeting with our game face on……you know the one!  It’s the one where you make a point of standing tall, with a smile on your face and greet the person warmly, while exuding an air of assertiveness to hide any underlying feelings of anxiety, inferiority, imposter syndrome, or any other perceived flaw you may   be judged on.

For those out there who know me, I have worn that suit till it was thread bare, and when you meet me now, I show you me, just as I am here and now.  Don’t get me wrong, I still hear the rumblings of that shadowy voice whispering through the cracks, but it does not envelop me the way it used to.

So, tell me about yourself?  That’s how it starts off in meetings doesn’t it?  Maybe there’s a bit of, ‘How has your morning or day been’? chit chat, while both anticipating stepping on the trap door of vulnerability.

He was feeling the same way!

The older I get the more I realise, we all experience a visit from “Wormtongue” in our lifetime. Whether it’s that visitor who drops in every now and again unannounced, and never knows when to leave without being shown the door, or the squatter who threatens to reap havoc on your life.

Until we acknowledge WE, just as we are, all parts of us, all our life experiences the good, the bad and the ugly are invaluable to this world, the shadow of Wormtongue will continue to plague our growth and potential.

There is an interesting shift that happens when you realise someone accepts you just as you are.  It’s something that is beyond words and feelings.  It’s an energetic shift, like a change in the direction of the wind, or when the heat of the sun softens the sinews of your body as it warms the air around you.

 

It’s that hug of reassurance we call validation and it starts in child hood.

Unfortunately, we don’t all receive positive validation.  It’s a part of our growth and evolution that we carry the dark echoes of our parents, their parents, teachers, neighbours, peers, work colleagues with us like invisible clamps that hijack our life support system when we try to express our needs.

The wounding words often said without realising the effect soak into the very fabric of our being, until what once belonged to another suddenly feels like it’s ours.

And the birthing of Wormtongue begins.

How was the evil Minister vanquished?

Forgiveness and acceptance, after a long arduous and war torn battle.  The King was freed from the grips of the illusions and enchanted words of another.  They no longer held any power over someone who has  accepted  his true self.

We Show People How To Treat Us Based On The Stories We Present.

We Show People How To Treat Us Based On The Stories We Present.

I was reading an article recently by Sasza Lohrey (2019) about this very thing and how people relate to us based on how we relate to ourselves.

There is trending rhetoric at the moment about the importance of ‘self-care’ and for the most part, society appears to translate this as a bit of pampering. It’s a bit like a spa day, getting your nails done, sitting with a face mask on in front of a marathon box set session. All in all, it’s become synonymous with this app-based, regular upgrading, throw away lifestyle we are in.

Rather than seeing it as an essential part of our daily routine for healthy growth and development, self-care and self-love have become things we pick up every now and again like a fancy accessory. We have a bit of fun with them then dispose of them afterward. Ew! That sounds horrible. But that’s how we live.

How we live reflects our perceptions of ourselves and how we then perceive others. So ask yourself, what story do you want to be reflected back to you?

When people see how you treat yourself, whether positively or negatively they respond in kind by mirroring that inner state of being. They don’t respond to what you show on the outside. People consciously or subconsciously respond to the vibration created from behind the social mask.

One of the most amazing things about the human condition is the power of creation and what it can achieve. I am not talking about the ability to amass material wealth, positions or possessions but what can be transformed by the power of unconditional love, kindness, and compassion.

Science has shown us that the energy powered by these qualities expands, creating the most miraculous patterns of growth. Theses patterns can destroy toxins and dis-ease in the body and mind, bringing peace, and calm to all things.

As babies we require our mothers or caregivers to be present, to be able to understand and meet our needs. This is what we call unconditional love, care, and compassion. These behaviours are essential for healthy brain development. They help us love, care and value ourselves and provide us with the ability to nurture our own skills and talents. It helps us develop healthy boundaries so that we show people how to treat us and also be true to who we are.

Strength to truly stand up and be ourselves comes from a place of vulnerability. That place of unwavering trust that God, the Universe, Source, whatever you want to call it never made temporary or faulty goods, to be replaced, upgraded, and chucked in the trash. Everything created is perfect as it is.

You are unique and priceless so step into your original storyline, not someone else’s copy.

Stomach Complaints, Diabetes, Indigestion and Feeling Weak  (Thoracic 7&6)

Stomach Complaints, Diabetes, Indigestion and Feeling Weak (Thoracic 7&6)

 

 I am going to group TH7 and TH6 together as the symptoms are very closely related and overlap. TH7 is in the middle of the back and helps to support the muscles of the chest as well as the spinal cord and rib cage. TH6 sits superior to TH7.  Due to the proximity to the stomach area physical problems that can occur include – Duodenal ulcers, stomach complaints, hiccups, possible vitamin deficiency, feeling weak, digestive problems, heartburn and diabetes.

The spinous process of TH7 descends posterior to TH8 and locks the thoracic vertebrae in a stiff, solid column allowing very little lateral movement and rotation.  The centrum and transverse processes have facets called planar synovial joints, which hold the ribs in place and allows a slight gliding motion, which makes it possible to flex and extend our upper body backward and forward with little lateral movement.

Stomach ulcers may be due to a virus, i.e. something external to us affecting us deeply.  Ulcers are aggravated by high acidity from digestive juices.  When we feel under too much pressure and worry, this aggravation is activated.  Have you heard yourself say, I feel aggravated or agitated? If so, stop just for a minute, take a few deep breathes and feel in your body where this aggravation is stimulated?  Then ask yourself what feeling is triggering that response and where did it first come from?  How much acidity (words, behaviours and attitudes) are you taking from others? This ends up eating away at you which is what ulcers effectively do.  When you feel unable to express how this makes you feel for fear that you will be humiliated by your family, friends, or other authority figures.  When you are made fun of at another’s expense or have your vulnerability flaunted rather than understood, comforted and cared for.  The lack of a safe person or place to help you digest those experiences, understand and express these feelings can become stored inside and develop as anger, resentment, bitterness turned towards the self, which eats away at you.   Due to these earlier experiences, you may develop a pattern of attracting people who are abusive and hurtful.

The impact of misalignments with TH7 and TH6 on emotional and psychological states of being in addition to the above indicate – a great deal of how a person is feeling is swallowed thus lacking the ability to express the emotion adequately.  Everything is internalised and nothing gets out.  People often get lost in addictions like eating, drinking etc. with a lot of internal rebellion.

This all links to the previous thoracic vertebrae in relation to relationships and how supported or unsupported an individual feel’s in their life.  People with misalignments in TH7 and 6 may also be affected by pain in the middle of their back.  This is often a case of an individual who is supportive of other’s but doesn’t feel that anyone has their back.

Research highlights people who have had to carry or hold the burden of unresolved emotional issues in the family can be affected by the conditions highlighted above.  There are often historical patterns of unhealthy boundaries, so one person’s issue becomes everybody’s issue and if you try to assert your own needs you are seen as unsupportive and shunned until you toe the party line.  This is a learned behaviour to prevent the healthy member from forcing the family to face the dysfunctional dynamic.

Corrections to this area firstly alleviate the physical discomfort by releasing blockages.  It may also have the effect of starting a process of emotional release as the healing has an up-stream effect pushing what needs to be liberated up and out.  This is where an individual may feel the need to vocally release feelings or find an appropriate and safe physical outlet.  If someone does not feel they have enough of a safe network of support around them to facilitate this healing they may subconsciously hold onto this pain, even after treatment.  This is where you find people relying on repeat prescriptions of painkillers or other forms of behaviour to numb the pain. The individual must feel s/he is safe, has trustworthy support and in the right place to accept the treatment and subsequent healing.

Diabetes required a blog all to itself as there is so much linked to this condition on a metaphysical level.  I will visit this condition in a future blog.

 

The Spleen and Immune System (Thoracic 8)

The Spleen and Immune System (Thoracic 8)

Thoracic 8 or TH8 can be found in the middle of the valley that is the slight inward curve of the spine between the cervical and lumbar vertebrae.  Like TH9, the ventral body is heart shaped.  The difference being that TH8 has an increasingly large vertebral arch.  The long spinous process (the bony bit that you see when you look at someone’s back) slopes downwards and overlaps with TH9.

The physical conditions that are associated with misalignments to this vertebra are spleen problems and a weak immune system. The immune system helps to protect the body from harmful substances such as antigens. In other word this could include things like bacteria, viruses, toxins, cancer cells or foreign blood and tissues from another person or species.  An overactive immune system develops allergic reactions, while an under-active immune system makes you more susceptible to infection. This is in relation to external influences.  When the defence systems that are supposed to protect you from harmful influences in the external environment starts to attack you, this is what we call auto-immune diseases

The spleen filters waste from and recycles the red blood cells.  Platelets and white blood cells are also stored there. It has a crucial role in communication assisting the immune system to identify and attack foreign pathogens and allergens.

If we were to compare our immune system to a structure in society it would be our armed forces on a macro scale or our parents/carers on a micro scale. The people and systems that protect us from foreign or harmful invaders. On an individual level it is our ability to recognise and discriminate what is inside of us and what is external to us.  The relationship we have with this boundary has a distinct effect on our overall health and development.

Research into how our emotions and thoughts affect this area indicates that a strong emotional support system in our early years will aid us in developing a greater resilience and strength to protect us against outside invasion and being easily influenced by others.  We will have more self-belief and trust in ourselves.  We will be more caring and loving towards ourselves and others, be able to recover from setbacks easier.  The more positive and caring we are towards ourselves the less likely we are to become depressed.

Disruptions in our emotional development where love has been associated with trauma, confusion or when you just never knew what response you were going to get from your caregiver impacts on the strength of your immune system.  Where there has been a lack of love, comfort and protection in our younger years, as adults that empty feeling can make you behave in a very needy way.  You may feel unsure about how to express your love or even be confused about what love should feel like.  You will have a deep need for love but your experiences of how unpredictable, unreliable or hurtful the expression of love was towards you, makes you reject it and feel overly defensive.  You may forgo your own needs to please another until your needs are no longer yours.  This is when the boundaries of what is you and what is external are blurred.  These extremes of emotions are exhausting on the system and deplete your bodies ability to naturally defend and protect itself.

We also have to acknowledge the afffect chemical toxins from our food air and water are impacting on our systems.  Our bodies are designed to maintain a balance/homeostasis but when the external influences are constant and relentless our systems just get overwhelmed, just like emotional  toxins.

When inner anger, irritations and resentment go unexpressed, these old stagnant thought patterns and feelings also impact on the strength of our natural and healthy defences.  A strong spleen frees us up from these toxic conditions encouraging clarity and compassion.

 

The Spleen and Immune System (Thoracic 8)

The Spleen and Immune System (Thoracic 8)

Thoracic 8 or TH8 can be found in the middle of the valley that is the slight inward curve of the spine between the cervical and lumbar vertebrae.  Like TH9, the ventral body is heart shaped.  The difference being that TH8 has an increasingly large vertebral arch.  The long spinous process (the bony bit that you see when you look at someone’s back) slopes downwards and overlaps with TH9.

The physical conditions that are associated with misalignments to this vertebra are spleen problems and a weak immune system. The immune system helps to protect the body from harmful substances such as antigens. In other word this could include things like bacteria, viruses, toxins, cancer cells or foreign blood and tissues from another person or species.  An overactive immune system develops allergic reactions, while an under-active immune system makes you more susceptible to infection. This is in relation to external influences.  When the defence systems that are supposed to protect you from harmful influences in the external environment starts to attack you, this is what we call auto-immune diseases

The spleen filters waste from and recycles the red blood cells.  Platelets and white blood cells are also stored there. It has a crucial role in communication assisting the immune system to identify and attack foreign pathogens and allergens.

If we were to compare our immune system to a structure in society it would be our armed forces on a macro scale or our parents/carers on a micro scale. The people and systems that protect us from foreign or harmful invaders. On an individual level it is our ability to recognise and discriminate what is inside of us and what is external to us.  The relationship we have with this boundary has a distinct effect on our overall health and development.

Research into how our emotions and thoughts affect this area indicates that a strong emotional support system in our early years will aid us in developing a greater resilience and strength to protect us against outside invasion and being easily influenced by others.  We will have more self-belief and trust in ourselves.  We will be more caring and loving towards ourselves and others, be able to recover from setbacks easier.  The more positive and caring we are towards ourselves the less likely we are to become depressed.

Disruptions in our emotional development where love has been associated with trauma, confusion or when you just never knew what response you were going to get from your caregiver impacts on the strength of your immune system.  Where there has been a lack of love, comfort and protection in our younger years, as adults that empty feeling can make you behave in a very needy way.  You may feel unsure about how to express your love or even be confused about what love should feel like.  You will have a deep need for love but your experiences of how unpredictable, unreliable or hurtful the expression of love was towards you, makes you reject it and feel overly defensive.  You may forgo your own needs to please another until your needs are no longer yours.  This is when the boundaries of what is you and what is external are blurred.  These extremes of emotions are exhausting on the system and deplete your bodies ability to naturally defend and protect itself.

We also have to acknowledge the afffect chemical toxins from our food air and water are impacting on our systems.  Our bodies are designed to maintain a balance/homeostasis but when the external influences are constant and relentless our systems just get overwhelmed, just like emotional  toxins.

When inner anger, irritations and resentment go unexpressed, these old stagnant thought patterns and feelings also impact on the strength of our natural and healthy defences.  A strong spleen frees us up from these toxic conditions encouraging clarity and compassion.

 

Allergies and Kidney Issues (Thoracic 9)

Allergies and Kidney Issues (Thoracic 9)

Physical Issues

 Thoracic 9 or TH9 greatly resembles the vertebrae of TH2-TH8 in that it’s ventral body is the shape of a heart.  It does have other defining features that set it apart from the other vertebrae in that it is the lowest positioned and thus the largest.  Although rare, displacement of TH9 can cause severe symptoms in the kidney area, due to TH9 communicating directly with the adrenal glands, which were discussed in the unit about TH10.  Issues like this are usually associated with age related degenerative conditions.

Physical symptoms related to misalignments in this vertebra include allergies and nettle rash.

Emotional and Psychological issues

The emotional and psychological issues look like a set of secondary reactions and consequences to TH10 and combine suppressing one’s own aggression and making accusations.  You may only feel able to express your boundaries after being regularly provoked; therefore anger becomes a way of feeling strong and confident.

Let’s look at some allergies, i.e. food and lactose intolerances, hives, hay fever, rashes, sinus, skin problems and celiac disease.  What do they all have in common?  They invade and attack our system (something or someone is offensive and hostile).  We feel powerless to control this attack or invasion.  It can trap us by making us feel like withdrawing from situations.  Your body rejects certain foods, something that should be nutritious and full of sustenance.  It can irritate and affect our moods.  You may feel exhausted by being stuck in a ‘fight’ mode fighting off the invasion, leaving you bereft of energy.  What all these allergies have in common is that they have breached your personal boundaries.

Research into the root causes of allergies on a metaphysical level indicates the following:  One of things to remember is that when the body is in fight or flight mode, your senses are heightened.  This gives the body and mind a feeling of overwhelm and being out of control.  Whatever sensations, smells, emotions your are feeling or food you are eating at the time will be registered at a highly stressed level by your system.  The mind and body then make an association between the situation, person, food etc and emotion.  This is more than likely a negative association.

Let’s look at the connection at an early age. In childhood there may have been a hostile, invasive dominating and controlling parent, leaving you insecure and unsure about your position in the family.  You may not have had a parent who was around enough for you to express your emotional needs in a safe and understanding way, therefore these feelings remain unresolved.  As an adult you want to withdraw from unpleasant situations and sweep things under the carpet rather than deal with them in the here and now.  This maintains you in a cycle of feeling helpless to manifest the desired changes you want in your life as things feel impossible to resolve.

Food and dairy intolerances related to nurturing and love, which impacts on our sense of self-worth.  The love/comfort and nurturing you received from your parents, care giver and other influential people may have been hostile and offensive leaving you with difficulties trusting that their intentions would be good for you.  This has an impact on all other relationships in life and therefore our ability to trust ourselves and others.

Deep feelings of grief are held in the system through these early experiences as it’s a form of loss.  These unresolved feelings manifest as physical symptoms that our body uses to try to communicate to us what still needs to be dealt with in order to recover from.

The electrochemical peptide that stores the information of the emotion of anger is stored in the liver.  Suppressing and denying one’s anger means it accumulates thus reducing the healthy functioning of the liver.  Skin rashes and other skin conditions can occur if the liver is going through a detox or if the individual is working on any of these issues above.  This of course is not true for every symptom or condition but it may occur in some.

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